ASK DR WANG, the psychic betta fish
This week's letter is from Debbie in Seattle, WA. Debbie writes:
Dear Dr Wang,
My younger sister has recently revealed to me that she is a lesbian. This came as a complete shock, I was completely unaware of Donna's interests. My first reaction was to tell her I loved her and it made no difference. I have no problem with her being gay, but I feel a little hurt that she hid it from me for so long. I'm also a disappointed in myself that I was (apparently) so distant that I missed this major aspect of her life. Should I confront her about why she neglected to tell me this until now? And what should I do next? Do I share this information with the rest of the family? I am so confused about my role in this. Also, what do you see for my future?
Dr Wang responds: Dear Debbie,
First of all, you should be commended for expressing your love and support to your sister. However you need to know that this is not about you. This is your sister's lifestyle, and her decision to come out to you. Do not feel guilty or confuse this with anything you have done (or have not done). As far as what you should do next, I'd say NOTHING, without asking Donna first. Ask her if she needs your help in speaking to other members of the family-if not all you need to do is be a good sister.
As far as your future, I was not clear what you wanted to know, but I swam past The Great Bubble Wall several times to pick up a vibe or two about your future. The bubbles were particularly turbulent and active, indicating a stormy couple of weeks ahead for you. You have two problem people in your life: a workman (possibly a carpenter?) who is taking shortcuts on a project he is doing in your home, and also your baby sitter is stealing your underwear. You need to fire both of them before the next full moon. The good news is your sister Donna's girlfriend is very handy with tools and can watch your kids too.
Keep swimming upstream,
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